“We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here now with the power to shape your day and your future for tomorrow.”
– Steve Maraboli
Divorce! The “D” word that no one wants to utter. Most of us don’t get married to end up as a statistic, just like over half the married couples out there.
Divorce is painful, mind-blowing, and hard to describe. It is some of the most intense pain you can experience as a couple. It feels like your whole world has changed in the course of one moment. There are transitions: financial issues, the children, the plans you made this month, next year on your anniversary, or 5 years from now when you were getting ready to retire.
Your whole world has been torn apart, and the word “divorce” has now evolved into all the emotions that go with a new identity; a divorcee. While losing a mate to death is crushing, and very debilitating, divorce is said to leave a person feeling like they are going through a ‘living death”. The emotions range from anger, sadness, embarrassment, maybe jealousy if there is someone else involved, self-doubt, insecurity, even vengeance, but most of all a ‘failure’ in your own eyes, or those of others, and even before God.
The feeling of being “one-flesh” when you are married, now feels like your one-flesh is being ripped in a million pieces. Much like someone who has lost their mate, little things creep up to remind you of past conversations, intimate moments, cards, love letters, places you have been, and then the reality of today, this moment, will send you into a sobbing mess. Even when expected, divorce causes you to endure many changes and transitions such as living arrangements, custody of children, financial situations, and sometimes loss of other relationships, family, and friends.
It is normal to experience grief and loss through this process.
We can help you understand what you are going through. We can help walk you through the steps to recovery and walk this road towards healing. It’s very normal to have questions, fears, doubts about what the future holds. It is even more normal to have feelings of grief and loss during this difficult time.
We have experienced, skilled and trained therapists who care enough to get down in the trenches with you so you don’t have to do this walk alone. Whether the divorce was mutually agreed upon, amicable, contentious, or messy, we can help you rebuild your life by walking alongside you as you navigate the unknown journey ahead. Give us a call, and together we will reclaim the pieces that have been left behind and rebuild it into something that gives you hope, joy, and beauty from the ashes.