"The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision."
- Helen Keller
Do you have someone special in your life, whether married or as a partner? Many of us have that person in our life. However, there are times when our partner seems to be walking on one path and you on another. No matter what you may try in the privacy of your own home, it feels like the path is getting wider and bumpier.
Whether it is a new relationship or one that is long-term, it is normal to have issues even more normal to feel like the relationship is changing. Changes are inevitable, and changes are encouraged! However, it is how we roll with those changes that predicts whether we adapt and find our balance during periods of misunderstanding, disconnect, conflict management issues, external pressure (work, family), or internal struggles. (stress, emotional problems, illness).
Some Problems Couples May Experience
- Unhealthy Communication
- Lack of Trust
- Financial Problems
- Parenting Issues
- Emotional or Psychological Problems
- Physical Health Problems
- Loss of Job or Career Changes
- Recreation Differences
How Can Couples Counseling Help?
You’ve heard the saying, that “you can’t see the forest through the trees”. Most couples pride themselves on resolving their own issues, but there are times that no matter what we try we just can’t see to find the answers we need to get to the solution. Another common issue is when we recycle issues that seem to never end.
Some people in our lives are blessings and some people are the lessons.
We go back to old stuff that was left unresolved, un-talked about, or created so much anxiety that we decided to shelve it for another day. Invariably, it will pop back up, and here we go again!! In times like these, you are and your partner may need a third party to bring a fresh perspective, and help you identify the source of the problem, and help you learn how to get past the conflict.
Good therapy will assist you in recognizing the problems, setting goals, dealing with any unmet expectations, managing emotions. The goal is learning how to get better in negotiating, identifying negative patterns of behavior, respecting your partner’s feelings, developing specific skills and tools, learn more about yourselves, your partner, personalities, and how you dance (interactively) together.